Eventual downfall of Scandinavia

The general public has shifted their attitude towards violence since cities began to rise. The necessary move to the city have broken the monopoly which the families had on violence. Law and Police were invented and crime levels and death began their decent to the levels whe have now. Along side of that is the change of attitude, quite simply violence is not longer accepted.
So violence moved to the only place where the public struggles to have a say in it: the bedroom, our private quarters. Violence is very common in these places, and spectacular examples are easy given. That kind of violence is very hard to fight and the problem excists all over the world. Since this year more people live inside cities then ever before, the number of incidents with this kind of violence will increase.
That leaves us with only one real option; changing the way people behave, because violence is not the only rotten thing that happens inside closed doors of a home. Old people lay for weeks, months sometimes years dead in there homes, children get neglected and the overal live conditions of many of these one-parant families are downright poor.
Divorce is a subject the Western world hasn't got any answer to. It is a very traumetic experience for those involved - but the effects are uncertain, vague and remain hidden for so long. The're stories in the world that are so genuinly sad that even telling the tale is painfull; there was a women which suffered from bone-cancer since her child was born and her condition slowly deteriorated. She couldn't do everything anymore, even holidays were to much. Her husband eventually left her for an other woman and at the last moment she died without her son - moved to his father - and without the loving support of her husband (he didn't even divorced her). So she died, maybe in the company of a few friends - if she was so lucky they sticked to her in that long sickbed, and her son has had the worst example in his life we could imagine: his father run away when troubles came. Even the best among us may never grow up to be a stable young men having thát as a youth.
So should he have stayed? He promised her when she was in white - years ago. A promise kept is a promise kept. Don't marry if you don't want to break promises, or is marrying these days nothing more than tax advantages? Are we that far?
These are big social problems for which no problem or solution is alike, and most are handled by amateures. But most of them originate at the very problems in-house violence are prone to: values, respect, equiality between sexes, stress from work, or - which is a problem that has always been there - having seen that your father handled it like this.
Sometimes it is necessary to split up and never see each other again, which is a problem when you have children. Scientist have said it; the family is dead - we need other method to organise ourselves. But simply put; Ikea markets for families so that will be very uneconomic for us as customers.
Moral of the story is offcourse: In medevil times masterminds put the things in motion that will lead to the bankrupty of Scandinavia. And that is seriously a problem.